Puso o Isip???

Sabi nila isa raw sa pinakamahirap pagdesisyunan sa lahat ay kung alin sa dalawa ang mas pagaganahin mo, kung utak o puso.

Ganito kasimple, sa mga komplikadong eksena halimbawa, alam mo ng nasasaktan ka, bakit mo pa rin itinutuloy?

Kapag nalagay ka sa isang posisyon na kinakailangan mong mamili kung alin sa dalawa, ang daang mahirap na kapag nalagpasan mo ay labis-labis na kaligayahan ang mararamdaman mo o isang simpleng pagpapasya na tapusin ang nararamdamang hirap at maghanap ng mas madaling daan.

Alin sa kanila ang mas pipiliin mo?

Isama mo na ang katotohanang sa una hindi mo pa nasisiguradong kapag nalagpasan mo amg mahirap na daan ay matitiyak mo na ang kaligayahang dulot ng matagal na paghihirap, paminsan-minsan nauuwi rin sa wala ang lahat. Pupuwede pang sa pagpupumilit mong bagtasin ang liku-likong daan, higit sa kalahati ang tiyansa mong maligaw, hindi dahil sa may nagligaw sayu kundi niligaw mo ang sarili mo.

Oo alam ng utak mong nagpapakatanga ka pero bakit puso pa rin ang pinapagana mo.

Marami akong kakilalang nadala na sa paulit-ulit na pagpapangibabaw ng puso nila sa kanilang sistema. Madalas nilang sabihin "nadala na ako, utak na ang ginagamit ko".

Yan ang isa sa mga posibleng benepisyong nakukuha sa pagkakamali. Sa unang pagkakataong nabagtas mo ang maling daan, sa ikalawa ba'y pipilitin mo pa ring idaan ang sarili mo doon?Katangahan na marahil na matatawag kung ganun ang gagawin mo.

Pero minsan talaga dumarating sa puntong mapapaisip ka, wala lang halos pinagkaiba sa isang exam kung saan alam mong letter A ang sagot pero B ang isinulat mo at kapag tinanong ka na kung bakit yun ang sinagot mo isa lang ang pupuwede mong masabi. "Hindi ko rin alam ee...basta ang alam ko yun ang tama".

Paliguy-ligoy ang aking mga pagpapahayag hindi dahil sa trip ko lang, kundi dahil gusto kong hindi lang utak mo ang gumagana, nais kong mangyaring puso mo ang magbasa ng bawat salitang nakapaloob dito.

Higit sa lahat bago ka magpasya kung utak o puso ang paiiralin mo, mas magandang palaging magtitira ka ng para sa'yo, unahin mong mahalin ang sarili mo bago ang iba ....

Past and Present by Paulo Coelho

How do you make peace with a negative past and with those who have wronged you?

In order to move from the past to the present you need to accept your scars. But you need to do everything in your power in order to heal them so that the ghosts of your past will no longer barge in your present life.

It is a long and difficult process I grant you – but it’s a way out of guilt and hatred in my eyes.

How does one keep enthusiasm, especially when you meet people who are well.. scary and mean?

It’s normal that we don’t always keep our enthusiasm in front of obstacles. Indeed some people truly make an effort in destroying our plans and hopes and so they appear as evil.

But in these moments, if you are able to remind yourself of the reason of your actions and also see that those that are committed in creating pain around them are actually their first victims – then you may at least find an extra dose of consolation in your path. Ally yourself with those that wish you the best and don’t give strength to those that want to see you down. Don’t even grant them the right to be called your “enemies”.

How do you stop sadness?

By welcoming it and living it intensively for a determined amount of period. In my case I give myself three days to be completely submersed in this feeling.

Once I’ve let sadness pay me a visit, then I kindly ask it to leave. Sadness is then satisfied and leaves.

Para Sa Mga Taong Sobrang Magmahal : A Tagalog Post

Hindi ko naman sinabing mali ang magmahal ka ng sobra sa isang tao pero minsan nakakainis na yung tipong ikaw na lang ang nasasaktan at umiiyak. Mahal mo nga sya ng sobra at wala namang nagdududa pero isa lang naman ang tanong eh “Kung mahal ka din ba ng sobra ng taong minamahal mo ng sobra”. Kung “OO” ang sagot ikaw ang isa sa mga pinagpala sa mundo na magkaroon ng isang relasyon na sinasabi nila na “Wagas na Pag-ibig".

Pero minsan hindi mo rin sila masisisi dahil kung minsan hindi mo man aminin ganun ka din kung magmahal (sobra-sobra sa dapat lang ibigay). Heto ang ilan sa mga nakakainis sa mga taong sobra kung magmahal sa taong walang pagmamahal sayo:

1. Sobra mong binigay ang lahat na tipong wala ng natira para sayo kaya kung minsan ang nagiging dahilan mo sa kanya “Ano pa ba ang kulang at dapat kong gawin para lang hindi mo ko iwan”.

2. Nakakasakal kang magmahal dahil sa wala kang tiwala pero sobra kang takot na mawala sya to the point na kailangan nya ng sabihin sayo na “Ayoko na ng ganito nakakasakal ka na maghiwalay na muna tayo”. Nakakairita ka sa simpleng salita.

3. Sobra ka ng tanga at bobo sa paningin ng tao sa paligid mo sa larangan ng pag-ibig. Alam mong niloloko ka na pero nagagawa mo padin syang patawarin dahil sa dahilan mo na hindi naiintindihan ng mga tao sa paligid mo.

4. Ang taong sobrang magmahal madalas nila nakaka-away ang mga kaibigan nila dahil sa sobrang pagtatanggol sa taong mahal nya.

5. Para kang aso kung makahabol sa kanya, linta kung makadikit, pusa na sobrang makapaglambing, parang kuto at surot na hindi mabubuhay kapag nawala sya sayo. Tapos sya alam mo kung ano isang ibon na lumilipad habang iniiputan ka sa ulo pero baliwala lang sayo dahil para kang isang love bird na magpapakamatay kapag naiwan na nag-iisa.

6. Ang taong sobrang magmahal walang pinapakinggan kundi ang sarili lang nila. Mapapagod ka lang sa kakapayo sa kanila dahil parang nakikinig lang sila sayo at tipong sasang-ayon pa sila sa payo nyo pero ang totoo nyan alam na nila ang gagawin yun ay ang kabaligtaran sa kung ano man ang naipayo mo.

7. Ang masakit sa lahat ay sila mismo ang nananakit sa sarili nila kulang na lang tadyakan at sapakin mo para lang magising sa katotohanan na ayaw na sa kanila ng taong sobra nilang mahal. Nakakainis dahil sobra din nila pinapaasa ang mga sarili nila na magkakabalikan pa sila pero ang totoo...

"sya na lang ang nag-iisip na magkakabalikan pa sila o magiging sila pagdating ng panahon."

8. Ito ang sobrang kinaiinisan ko “Bakit may mga taong sobrang magmahal sa mga taong wala namang kwenta”. Wala na ngang kwenta pero nagagawa ka padin nilang saktan at gamitin pero pumapayag ka dahil nga sa sobra mo syang mahal.

9. Nakakainis dahil SOBRA DIN ANG SAKIT NA DULOT NG SOBRANG PAGMAMAHAL. Dahil mahirap ng intindihin ang isang tao kapag ito na ang dahilan nya “Mahal ko nga kasi eh” at tatanongin mo pa ng “Bakit mo nga sya mahal” na ang sagot na ibibigay nya ay hindi mo rin maiintindihan…..Ang gulo nito pero totoo diba?

Ang totoo nyan wala naman talagang sobra sa pagmamahal at wala din tama kung ilang porsyento lang dapat ang ibigay mong pagmamahal sa isang tao. Ang mahalaga sa bandang huli ay nagmahal ka at kung masasaktan ka man ng sobra ay hindi mo na kasalanan yun dahil mali din naman na isisi mo sa sarili mo at sa iba ang sakit na nararamdaman mo ngaun. Sabihin na lang natin na isa itong karanasan na dapat lampas bilang isang tao na alam kung pano ang magmahal at masaktan.


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“ Huwag mong husgahan kung pano magmahal at masaktan ang isang tao dahil lang sa kung ano ang nakikita mo dahil iba ang nakikita mo sa nakakaramdam ng pagmamahal at sakit na dulot nito. Kagaya ng iba din ang sinasabi nya sa harap ng taong mahal nya kumpara sa naririnig mo sa kanya kapag sya ay nasasaktan. “

Maybe One Day, Things Will Change

I wish I was one of those people who had life all figured out.

You know....the ones who know exactly what they want to do with their lives and how their going to get there. :'(

Nothing can stop them, they keep pressing forward no matter how many times they failed. I wish I was like that, well I used to be. I wish I could live this life to the fullest as if I were to die tomorrow. I wish I had no regrets. I wish I had the courage and strength to forget all my troubles and just live my life the way I've always wanted.

Not caring what others thought and living for myself.

Making myself happy.

Taking risks.

I mean doesn't it scare you to know that you only have one life to live and when your times up its up. I know live for today right... but why is it so damn hard? Just to be happy, find people who care, find love, and following your heart or whatever is left of it. I wish life wasn't so hard sometimes.

Live life to the fullest is easier said then done when your struggling to even get out of bed in the morning or to force yourself to put a smile on your face.

I feel like my life is a joke. :'(

I don't know what I'm doing with myself I'm just ******* my life away. Everyday that goes by I see a part of myself die inside because I know deep down inside this is my life. I can't change certain things. Everyday I'm reliving this pain and anger. I see my life crashing down before my eyes and I don't have the strength to pick up the pieces anymore. I had to put my life on hold because of my sick mother. My dreams are dead because of reality. I'm exhausted. I can't fight the tears anymore nor do I want to. I'm so tired it hurts.

I just want a hug. I want someone to tell me that everything is going to be okay.That I'll find my way somehow. Don't give up. I want someone to tell me that one day things will change.

Intentionally Live On Purpose

I have plenty of theories about what makes a relationship work and what doesn’t..

Hmmm..

But if I had to say there was one rule that has served me particularly well, it’s this:

Always think twice before saying something that might hurt their feelings. Never think twice before saying something that will make them feel good.

If there’s someone at work or in your church or your circle of friends that you’re interested in, someone you think is really fantastic, but you have no idea what they think of you…tell them anyway.

If you’re in a new relationship with someone and you’re absolutely smitten, but you’re worried that you shouldn’t tell them how you feel because it might scare them, might make them think less of you somehow, might be something they’re not totally ready for… tell them anyway.


If you’re in a bar or a coffee shop and you see a guy or girl on the other side who you think looks particularly attractive, but you’re worried that they won’t like you or think you’re smart or attractive or funny or “cool” enough for them… tell them anyway.

If you’ve been in a relationship for a long time and that spark seems to be gone – if your days are largely filled with the residue of arguments and cold statements and careless remarks – think back to a time when it wasn’t like that, when you looked at that person and they were everything you could have possibly wanted in another…think about that and then go tell them how special they are to you.

If you’re in the middle of an amazing relationship where all you can do is think about the other person, where every new thought that enters your brain seems to revolve around them…tell them, every time.


Now, here’s the tough part. As you’re doing these things, don’t worry about it being recipricated. Teach yourself to not care.


We live in a world that has programmed us to believe that our self-worth rests in other people. We’re taught that finding the right man or woman is all we’ll need, and that once we find that person our lives are going to be perfect.

Of course, it rarely ends up that way. The spark that once existed dies. The cute nicknames are replaced by rolled eyes and sharp comments. Something happens – the person lets us down.

The person doesn’t seem to care enough about us. Doesn’t tell us how special they think we are nearly enough. It seems as though we’re always doing more in the relationship – the scorecard is tilted decidedly in our favor.

So we withdraw. Some of us stay in the relationship and choose to ignore it. Some of us actually get used to fighting – almost get a high from it. Others choose to find solace in someone else’s arms. Still others just call it off, and resolve to be much more careful about who they let in next time.

The thing is, it’s probably neither person’s fault. They’ve been programmed a certain way, by a society that tells them a lie, by a soul that tells itself a lie.

That lie is that someone else can complete you. They can’t.

Guess what? You can’t complete them either.

So where does that leave you? It depends on how you look at it. You can despair and feel sorry for yourself. You can decide that all of this is meaningless, that you’ll never be happy. You can decide to stop looking for love and instead look for opportunities to take advantage of others who are.

Or…you can realize that there is someone else that does complete you. You can spend your life learning how to be loved by someone whose devotion to you never wavers. Learn what love truly is, and discover that the love you’ve been looking for all these years is simply meant to be a reflection, a reminder, and outgrowth of that love you already possess.

Sounds mushy, but it’s also powerful. Powerful because it frees you from looking for that love in someone else. Powerful because it frees you to love others without keeping score. Allows you to love others the way they were meant to be loved by you.

You’ll find people that you find attractive and want to get to know better. You’ll approach them with confidence and be honest, making jokes and being sincerely interested in them. You’ll probably let them know that you’re interested in getting to know them better, and you won’t be afraid. If they aren’t interested, you’ll be okay with that – either way, you’ve let them know that someone out there thinks they’re special and worthwhile and interesting and beautiful.

Maybe you’ll go on a few dates together. You’ll probably tell them how smart you think they are, that you think they’re job is interesting, that you really like their shoes. It might make them uncomfortable. Maybe they’ll withdraw for a bit. Maybe they’ll ask for some space. Maybe they’ll call you a freak and never talk to you again. You won’t care – they’ll know that someone out there thinks they’re special and worthwhile and interesting and beautiful.

And then, one day, you’ll find someone that doesn’t find your honesty strange. You’ll find someone who thinks you’re witty and entertaining and attractive and fun to be around. And the best part is that they’ll be honest enough with themselves to realize that your behavior – the fact that you find them utterly fascinating – isn’t creepy at all, but rather is the thing they’ve wanted for their entire lives, the thing they cried themselves to sleep about after losing…or after never finding anything remotely close to it before. And they’ll love you back with the same reckless abandon that you loved them.

And it will be great and your life will be infinitely better as a result. And in that moment, you’ll experience the closest reproduction of what God wants with us that exists in this world.

Call someone, meet someone, spend time with someone you care about. And tell them. And mean it.

I Have To Be Strong For You

We take for granted our time at home, we take for granted our times alone, we take for granted our safety and cheer. Until we’re away and there is such sadness and fear.

This time away has caused me to think about our lives together, our bond, our link
things around us change and so do we. Our thought, our goals, our hopes, how we see. Our outlook on life becomes more clear and more than all of this, my love for you more. The time will pass slowly on some of the days and life will change in so many ways. Know that in this time, my love for you will grow stronger. Soon we’ll be together and the void will be no longer.

I miss you so much, Baby!

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NOW I KNOW IT IS WORTH IT..

I tried so hard not to give up on love. I see it all around me and all of my close friends have felt it, except for me. I used to have hope that one day it would be my turn, after all I am only 20. But every time I am presented with the possibility of love I freeze, and completely screw it up. I push it away before it gets too intense, I convince myself that I'm only going to get hurt and what's the point? I wont end up marrying this person, or probably even dating them for that long so why risk hurting myself. I finally decided to take a risk and talk to this guy that I met briefly at the church. We immediately hit it off, and kept in close contact the two weeks. I was so thrilled and excited and ready to take a risk and let myself get hurt because I thought this time would be worth it and maybe I wouldn't get hurt for awhile or maybe not at all.

It was the BEST date, I'd ever been on, I felt comfortable with him and wasn't scared or nervous about what was going to happen. After the date I was flooded with so many emotions I had never felt before, I was nervous and excited in a good way and couldn't wait to see him again. However, after the date all contact between us was forced and it seemed like he was blowing me off. I was completely flabbergasted, how could he be blowing me off after we talked everyday for two weeks and had this incredible date? Am I young and naive in thinking it was more than it really was? I tried to keep in contact because I didn't want this one to get away, I had let him in unlike anyone else before and didn't want to let him go.


It's been a couple weeks, we have barely spoken and any communicating is contrived and strange. I have given up, if he doesn't want to speak to me why should I speak to him? Any courage that I gained from the beginning of this relationship I have lost completely. I can't help but think, how is this fair? I actually risked my feelings for this person and where was my reward? Finally I am the one who tried my hardest to make it work, and I end up the one alone. Any hope that I have left for love is almost gone. Friends keep telling me that one day I'll find someone. Some how I don't believe it. Not everyone falls in love, not everyone gets married, who is to say that it'll ever happen for me? I was once told that if I want it to happen for me it will. But how can it when I try so hard to make it happen and it still doesn't?

I'm trying to remain confident and hopeful because the idea of love is all that keeps me going, I'm holding onto the idea of love being bigger than anything in the whole world and that it will completely change my life. But at the same time the thought of it barely slipping out of my grasp hurts so badly. Love to me is like a double edged sword and I am constantly wondering if it is worth it.